Here For You

Lets be honest now, there are a lot of things that really get me irritated. I won't even begin to list them all. But nothing gets me more annoyed than when friends don't listen to the advice I give them, after asking for it.

It's one thing to not take advice when you don't want to hear it. I completely understand that. I don't always take people's advice. No one wants to hear the truth when it isn't what they want to believe. That I can completely understand. It's when someone asks for my advice or opinion, then completely ignores it.

When I give my friends my opinion on a serious matter, I say it with complete honesty, because I care about them. I never want to see my friends hurt, therefore I tell them what is on my mind. If you ask for my advice, please, at least consider it. If you don't want it, don't bother asking for it. If you know what I'm going to say because it's not the first time you've heard it, don't bother asking for it. It annoys me.

I love when my friends come to me for help because I love to help them. I care about them and I want them to be happy. When anyone (friend or not) has an issue, I'm always willing to listen and to help out. But only if they want the help. I've spent too much time trying to help people that don't want the help. It has gotten me nothing but frustration. So I'm done.

It's a bit negative tonight, but I'm just fed up. I don't want to go into too much detail because I don't want to subblog. This is happening with multiple people, and I can't handle it. The best I can do is be there for my friends, with advice to give when asked for.

Advice should always be honest. Before asking, make sure you're ready to hear it. I don't sugar coat things anymore.

Spontaneity

What is life without excitement? Without spontaneity? Without surprises? Life is boring. Who wants to live a boring life? Not this girl.

I love when people surprise me. It makes life exciting. No one wants to settle for a boring, daily routine that is never different. Change is good, it's exciting, it's what makes the time we have on Earth worth it. I wish it happened more often, but some people are just too shy. I get it though, I've definitely been there. I can be very shy, but I've gotten much better. I've learned that it can't hurt to be yourself. If people don't like the way you are, they aren't worth the time. Don't get me wrong, I've got nothing against people being shy. Its just that people who are spontaneous are always the most fun to be around. You never know what they are going to do next.

I can't even explain how awesome spontaneous people are. I can't give examples as to what makes them awesome. I don't even know what to say right now. I'm actually at a loss for words. They are just awesome. Simple as that. The fact that they are unpredictable is what makes being around them so exciting. They may ask the most random things, but what makes the night so enjoyable is just saying yes to it. "Want to lay down in the middle of the street?" YES. "Want to attempt to waltz in the middle of a store?" SURE! "Want to drive to the beach right now and spend the entire day there?" OF COURSE.
Life just got 10x more exciting because it became spontaneous.

The same old thing gets boring. Spice things up and do something out of the ordinary.

I Don't Care

I honestly don't care. I don't care what you think of me, I don't care what you say about me, I don't care what you subtweet about me. It doesn't matter, because I don't let it affect me. Which is the problem with about 99% of the high school population. Everyone is too worried about other's opinions.

Be yourself. Two simple words put together to form a simple statement. But it's not that simple, is it? Not many people are willing to be their complete selves because they are afraid of what others will think of them. I'm glad to say that I'm not one of them. The way I act is exactly the way I am. I may be shy at first, but once I get to know you, I break out of my shell and I become myself. Why can't more people feel comfortable doing that?

I don't dress like everyone else just to fit in. I don't talk like everyone else just to fit in. I don't party like everyone else just to fit in. I don't do anything for anyone but me. And if you don't like that, then that really sucks for you. I don't care though. It is what it is.
There isn't much point to this, because honestly, I don't care. (In case you haven't already figured that out)

I guess what I'm trying to say is that people should stop worrying about everyone else and focus on themselves. No one can be happy when constantly worrying about what others think. The only way to be truly happy is to be satisfied with yourself. And the easiest way to do that?! Not caring about what others think of you. Changing the way you are for others can make you fake and turn you into someone you're not. The second you let what someone says about you affect you, you're letting them control you. Don't give them the power to shape who you are. The reason you were given that power in the first place is because you are the only one who can use it to the full potential.
Subtweets are a whole different topic, yet closely related. I don't understand why people are so offended with them. All a subtweet does is let you know that 1) you're being talked about and 2) the person tweeting doesn't have the guts to say it to your face. If all you do is subtweet, you're pathetic. I get the occasional subtweet every once in a while if it's directed towards a group, rather than just an individual, but all the time? Come on now. That's not what twitter is for, and I'd rather not have to weed through constant bitching every time I reload twitter. (Which is often. I have a bit of a problem, but I'm okay with it.)
Genius idea! How about we act like the mature kids we SHOULD be and talk to each other in person rather than subtweeting about it. I think it would solve a lot more problems and maybe, just maybe, I won't be forced to unfollow anyone. But if subtweeting is your thing, if it's what gets the blood flowing, then whatever. I don't care. It was just a thought.

Subtweet, gossip, complain. Do whatever you want. Bottom line: it's still about me, and I still don't care.
"Love me or hate me, it's still an obsession"

Girls?

I feel that, because I'm a girl, it is acceptable for me to rant about how annoying the female sex is. But just before I start this, I'm not denying that I do any of this. I'm sure I have in the past, or maybe I still do. It's just annoying things I notice.

First off, when girls make degrading jokes about themselves, it just makes me angry. Like, does anyone realize how long it took for women to even have the right to vote in this country? Women in the past worked so hard to have the rights that women today have, but we don't realize how much we take it for granite. Second, why on Earth would anyone degrade their own sex!? That is just stupid right there. I actually find it offensive when guys tell girls to "make them a sandwich". No. You make your own damn sandwich, and while your at it, make one for me! Women aren't there just to cook and clean, despite 95% of guy's beliefs. Women can do anything men can do, yet the society we live in doesn't always allow that, which just makes me so frustrated. Our society is so sexist, and the only ones with the power to change it would rather joke about it and make degrading jokes. If it keeps up like this, I bet women will have less rights in the future than they do now. It's just irritating.

Next, when girls, mainly high school girls, move from one guy to the next to the next, it actually makes me laugh. Some girls are so dependent on someone else to make them happy, they don't even realize what they are doing. I have come to the conclusion that we are born to be individual, but finding a "significant other" is just an added bonus. They aren't needed, but they are nice to have. When I see girls with one guy one weekend, and a completely different guy the next, I wonder to myself what they are thinking, or what they are doing. No judgement though, if that's what floats their boat, then by all means. It's just not my cup of tea.

Oh goodness, don't even get me started on some of the outfits I see in the halls of Sunset. It makes me embarrassed to even attend the school. We are in a high school, not a strip club. I don't even want, or need, to go into it any more than that.

Then, of course, you can't talk about girls without talking about the stupid mind games we play. I, personally,  don't like to participate in these, because it's never fun. Someone always ends up hurt. But other girls, for some reason, think its funny. (Again, whatever floats their boat) Who even came up with these stupid rules anyway? Like if a guy you like texts you, you're not allowed to reply until 5 minutes later, after your message is approved by your closest friends. Who does that?! Why can't girls just be straight up? There are so many relationship issues, and who wants to take a guess at what causes them? I can tell you. It's mind games girls play. I hate it. I just absolutely hate it.

Guys, don't think you're the only ones getting screwed over with these mind games though.

Sometimes, I just want to shake some girls and scream at them until they understand why I get so annoyed with them all. But I can't do that, because that would be considered rude. 

Nothing New

I haven't posted anything in a while because, for once, I had nothing to complain about in my life. But seeing as homecoming was on Saturday, the venting beings.
I'll keep this post to one topic: high school relationships.

Seeing as it's fall, it is starting to get cold out, and everyone is ready to snuggle up, all these relationships start popping up right, left, and center. The funniest thing about it though, they don't last past the winter months. Apparently, no one wants to cuddle once the sun starts shining. Typical. Mood swinging teenagers.

Guys say they don't understand girls. Girls say they don't get guys. Its clearly a mutual problem, so why is it not solved yet? Humans are a complex species by nature, but what is so complicated about being honest? If everyone was honest in how they felt and what they wanted out of something, there wouldn't be these mind games being played. Yeah, I'll admit it. Girls can be crazy. We over-analyze things, we create problems, we don't really believe we can have a "fairy tale ending" even though it's all we dream about. We're selfish and spiteful. We're complicated. But that doesn't mean guys are so easy themselves. Don't be too quick to judge.

What really irritates me with high school relationships is not the fact that they never last, but the fact that when they are over, there is awkwardness or drama created around the entire thing. Sure, you dated for 3 months, but there is no need to make a situation awkward when you two are in the same class. Okay, your relationship ended after 6 months, but don't start rumors about how awful of a person they are because they broke up with you. Maybe you need to consider the fact that you were part of the reason the relationship didn't work out. Everything in life is a two way street, so don't blame everything on everyone else. It's not fair to anyone, whether they were directly involved or not.

Relationships are always a complicated matter. The best way to deal with it is to be honest. Funny, you'd think people would understand that. But based on the drama I hear about some relationships, it's clear that some people never got that message.

Negativity Killed the Cat

I am just in such a horrible mood right now. It is probably not the best idea to be blogging, but I don't know what else to do.

Its a proven fact that honest and optimistic people live longer lives, and today, I've decreased my lifespan by about 5 years. Yes, thats how negative I am today. I just have a lot on my plate and not enough time to sort through it all. I need a mental health day, that way, I can just be with my thoughts and figure out what it is that I'm doing with my life.

It's hard to know who to trust these days. Sure, you know you've always got your best friends, but when you need a friend to talk to, how do you know they are going to keep it between the two of you? What makes everything especially difficult is the Internet and phones. I never feel like what I say is kept private, but I suppose shame on me for thinking it could be if it goes on the Internet. It goes beyond that though, because sometimes, I will have a conversation in person with someone, but later hear about how they told people what we said. (If that makes any sense...) No one can keep a secret anymore, and that is just frustrating. I'm no different though, and I'm not trying to make myself sound perfect. I'm far from, and I'm proud to own up to it. I just wish that secrets could be kept. But sometimes, secrets must be spread because no one can keep a good secret to themselves.

I promise to myself and to you that I will try my hardest to be more optimistic and honest. My life will be easier, though some of the honesty may make it harder at times. I know it will be for the best, and I plan to do it.  But just know, if you need a secret to be kept, I keep them as locked as a bank's vault.

Hello High School

People these days have absolutely no idea how they are screwing themselves over. Sure, I guess it sounds cool to be popular, but why waste four years climbing to the top of the social ladder when you just have to start over once college starts? Why wouldn't you use these precious four years discovering who you truly want to be and what you want to do? That way, you just continue where you left off once you get to college, rather than starting over.

Social climbing is fake anyway. You have to act like someone you aren't in order to move up the rungs of high school popularity. Why even bother? I would much rather be considered a loser and be myself. At least I know I will sleep peacefully for the rest of my life. I don't bother coating myself in plastic just to "fit in". If I don't fit in with the people I'm around, I shouldn't be around them. I know who my friends are and I know that they love me for the way that I am, and they fact that I don't care if I'm different, or considered "unpopular". I'm me, so take it or leave it.

On a related topic, lets chat for a bit about "mean girls". (Or sometimes, "mean guys") I don't understand why people think its okay to be rude to one another. Where does it get you in life? NOWHERE! So just stop.  The funny part about mean girls is that they are so horribly rude to innocent people to make themselves feel better, but when they get called out for it, they act like sweet, innocent angels. Hello, we see through you!

Mean girls are insecure about themselves so they have to put others down. But sometimes, as much as it pains you, you just have to let them run their mouth. People these days find confidence in running their mouth over the Internet, but would never have the guts to do it in person. When you're the recipient of this "blast" (which is the stupidest phrase ever), just stick it out and know that you are stronger than the mean girl because you ignore it. All they want is to irritate you to the point that you snap, and when you do, they will twist the story to make you look bad and them look like the angel. The more you ignore it, the less they will run their mouth. Without a reaction from you, they get bored.

Hating on people is just plain stupid. I mean, didn't anyone else learn the rule "treat others how you want to be treated"? They taught that to us in KINDERGARTEN. You would think that by high school people would have figured out what it meant. I'm ashamed to say that some people still don't understand it, and unfortunately, they probably never will.

The important thing to remember is that who you are is not defined by what you wear, how popular you are, or how rude you can be, but how you act. If you act like a bitch, people think you're a bitch. And they are probably right.

Stay strong and be yourself, and no one can break you down.